Please accept my apology

June 19, 2007 4:54 PM

Back in January, I posted a pretty offensive thread. I'm not sure if this is appropriate for MetaTalk, but I would like to apologize for it. I was in a bad place at the time, and hope that anyone who was offended will forgive me for this indiscretion.
posted by reenum to Etiquette/Policy at 4:54 PM (54 comments total)

Thanks for the apology. A lot of people urged us to delete it, but for one reason or another we kept it around.

So was the original reason for posting it just shits and giggles or to screw with the community a bit?
posted by mathowie (staff) at 5:03 PM on June 19, 2007

Did you win the contest?
posted by klangklangston at 5:22 PM on June 19, 2007

Up to step 8 already? Good for you!
posted by Dave Faris at 5:35 PM on June 19, 2007 [2 favorites]

Just in case someone is thinking "gee wasn't there a super long MeTa thread about that post?" Yes, there was.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 5:36 PM on June 19, 2007

8's just the list Dave, 9 is where the really awkward emails and stammer heavy phone calls start.
posted by The Straightener at 5:39 PM on June 19, 2007

Stay classy, Dave.
posted by Blazecock Pileon at 5:48 PM on June 19, 2007 [5 favorites]

(It wasn't an offensive question. NC-17 to be sure, but there's a huge difference.)
posted by bardic at 5:48 PM on June 19, 2007

Hey! Thanks for giving those of us who missed your offensiveness a second chance to see it!!! Yayyyy offensiveness.
posted by The Deej at 5:58 PM on June 19, 2007

I am two minds about this. 1) It is good to admit to errors in judgement, 2) most everybody here have forgotten it, and would never think of it again, nor associate your name with it if it wasn't for bringing it up again. I note the AskMe is still open, perhaps, and this is just a mild suggestion, it would have been best to post the apology over there.
Whatever, the positive counts so tres bien.
now how many comments can we get in here?
posted by edgeways at 6:08 PM on June 19, 2007

OVER 9000!
posted by puke & cry at 6:10 PM on June 19, 2007

Hey what's the matter with you, what are you trying to do? I'm wrecking my brain - I'll never get it. Did I ever hurt you in any way? If I did then hear my apology.
posted by Wolfdog at 6:10 PM on June 19, 2007

It kinda grosses me out that I've got an answer in that thread, but that song is on the radio in the background of a striking memory from my childhood and it answered the question.
posted by carsonb at 6:16 PM on June 19, 2007

It's a bit more profane that most AskMe questions, but unless you were trying to prank the site, I don't really see much wrong with it.

Then again, I'm sick of all y'all chickenheads jockin my flow.
posted by dhammond at 6:17 PM on June 19, 2007

It's nice to be reminded of that thread again... we bitches/hos appreciate catchy, poetic lyrics about us. Always so flattering!
posted by miss lynnster at 6:47 PM on June 19, 2007

BTW, I can speak for all bitches/hos. I was appointed the official Bitch/Ho spokesperson at our last union meeting.
posted by miss lynnster at 6:49 PM on June 19, 2007 [2 favorites]

Well, miss lynnster, make up your mind. Bitch, or ho?
posted by The Deej at 6:57 PM on June 19, 2007

What? Can't you be both? Like a Producer/Director?
posted by wendell at 7:01 PM on June 19, 2007 [1 favorite]

I wasn't trying to prank the site at all. Nor did I have substance abuse issues. No, it was the most devious of all problems: getting over a horrible relationship.

I'm sure people can relate that when a SO does you so wrong that you break up and become extremely bitter, you do some crazy and regrettable things.

But, I would like to say it for all: women are beautiful and should be cherished. A few bad apples (or ho's, if you like) shouldn't cause myself or anyone to post something so patently offensive.

So to all the ladies out there, I don't think you're bitches or ho's. I think one of your ilk is, but the rest of you are A-OK with me.

I also wanted to post an apology because I recently read the Metatalk thread about my post again, and it makes me look like an absolutely dreadful misogynist and all around bad guy. I assure you all, I am neither of these things.

Back to MeFi everyone. Let's keep this site awesome.
posted by reenum at 7:07 PM on June 19, 2007

Aw, I think this is sweet, and sincere. Good on you, reenum.
posted by tristeza at 7:10 PM on June 19, 2007

Hm, I usually just hit women when I have a problem with them. But your approach sounds much more reasonable.
posted by puke & cry at 7:14 PM on June 19, 2007 [2 favorites]

Heck Dave, you've been stuck at between 4 and 5 since 'afore I even got here.

My mom appreciates knowing that she's A-OK in your books, reenum, and says thanks. Now let's all enjoy some marshmallow squares (The secret ingredient is butterscotch Chippets^TM!)!
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 7:33 PM on June 19, 2007

It's nice that you're apologizing, but if the shoe fits, maybe you need to think about why you're still calling your ex a ho and why you feel the need to let women know that they're "A-OK" with you.
posted by mandymanwasregistered at 7:35 PM on June 19, 2007

Mandy, it's because of the tenor of my original post. If you read the post and the comments it inspired, it ain't pretty.

I don't think my ex is a ho. I was trying to incorporate some of the semi funny responses by dhammond and miss lynster. I guess I should have put a :) to signify my intent. Nor do I need to tell women they're A-OK. It was part of my clumsy apology/explanation. I'm not good at expressing emotions in writing, so perhaps it comes off as ham-handed.

It's just important to me to make amends for what I did, that's all.
posted by reenum at 7:41 PM on June 19, 2007

I see the hand of Mrs. Cardoso in this.
posted by stupidsexyFlanders at 8:18 PM on June 19, 2007 [2 favorites]

Thanks for the context, reenum. Text is tricky, and so is the subject, and it was a hell of a storm it kicked up. I'm glad it was Odd Question and not Fucking With The Site.

Just in case someone is thinking "gee wasn't there a super long MeTa thread about that post?" Yes, there was.

I think I used the word 'disclaimerism' more in that thread than anyone else has ever anywhere else combined. Eesh.
posted by cortex (staff) at 8:31 PM on June 19, 2007

Just so you know, the bad apples are the bitches. The hos are the glassy eyed ones who are getting out there and spreading some thigh.

Glad I could help.
posted by BigSky at 8:49 PM on June 19, 2007

I had a woman down with me
But to me it seemed like she was down to get me
She helped me out in this shit
But to me she was just another bitch
Now shes back with her mother
Now Im realizing that I love her
Now Im feeling lonely
My mind is playing tricks on me

[doo doodoodoo doodoo doo doodoo, doo doodoodoo doo dooodoo]
posted by kosem at 8:56 PM on June 19, 2007

Thanks, reenum - I think it's nice you explained yourself. I didn't particularly take personal offense at the original post but can't say I loved it. I didn't remember who had posted that thread. This apology is a little unorthodox, but I take it as a nice gesture. Good on you!
posted by madamjujujive at 9:32 PM on June 19, 2007

I think the worst rap songs are the ones that fail to acknowledge the connection between female nudes and landscape art.
posted by KokuRyu at 9:32 PM on June 19, 2007 [1 favorite]

"I'm sure people can relate that when a SO does you so wrong that you break up and become extremely bitter, you do some crazy and regrettable things."

Congratulations, you're human. No wait, if asking that question is the worst you can do under those circumstances then you're more like a saint; I don't know why anybody'd be all that offended by that, whereas I can see why running every 5'6" redhead one can catch through a wood chipper might tend to upset folks. Let me know when you do something really bad, like yawn without covering your mouth, okay?
posted by davy at 9:37 PM on June 19, 2007 [1 favorite]

I'm not good at expressing emotions in writing...

Many people aren't, and the Internet would work better if more of us remembered that.
posted by cribcage at 10:43 PM on June 19, 2007

... running every 5'6" redhead one can catch through a wood chipper might tend to upset folks
Wait, we aren't supposed to do that? And how did you know my ex was a 5'6" redhead?

Um, is I mean. Is, not was. She's just been really busy lately, that's why she hasn't called. Yeah, busy, that's it.
posted by dg at 10:46 PM on June 19, 2007

When can we expect an apology for this thread?
posted by ChasFile at 11:04 PM on June 19, 2007

Thanks, reenum. Sounds like a pretty bad relationship. Hope you learned something from it. Guys whose experience with women makes them feel women are more and more inscrutable, not less, scare me.
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur at 11:22 PM on June 19, 2007

On the other hand, you don't want your women too scrutable.
posted by weapons-grade pandemonium at 11:57 PM on June 19, 2007

Dunno, wgp. It might be fun to catch Ms. Kwine in flagrante delicto with the ol' nightstand.
posted by Kwine at 3:42 AM on June 20, 2007

... running every 5'6" redhead one can catch through a wood chipper might tend to upset folks

My DAUGHTER is a 5'6" redhead.

STAY AWAY FROM MY KID.
posted by konolia at 5:39 AM on June 20, 2007

I would like to apologize for the pants I wore last May. In retrospect, plaid was a bad choice.
posted by Astro Zombie at 7:54 AM on June 20, 2007

I should pretty much apologize for my entire first year on Metafilter.
posted by bondcliff at 8:05 AM on June 20, 2007

I apologized just generally at the meetup this weekend.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 8:10 AM on June 20, 2007

I'm sorry you're all such jerks.
posted by Atom Eyes at 8:28 AM on June 20, 2007

I should probably apologies for writing something snarky like,"a call-out about yourself to assuage your guilt?".

what mandymanwasregistered said. I had pretty much forgotten that thread, but um, thanks for resurrecting it since it was so delightfully cheerful in the first place! (I'm being sarcastic, just in case someone has to ask).
posted by rmm at 8:33 AM on June 20, 2007

More troubling is the possibility this confession raises that others also are lying in AskMe about the true nature of their inquiries. Can I ever again believe that someone is researching a book he/she is writing, settling a disagreement, or "naming" a "puppy"?
posted by found missing at 8:49 AM on June 20, 2007

Puppies are bitches! Well, approximately half of the time, anyway.
posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson at 8:57 AM on June 20, 2007 [1 favorite]

women are beautiful and should be cherished

I'm not and shouldn't. Oh well.
posted by The corpse in the library at 10:12 AM on June 20, 2007

This is the apology thread, make of it what you will.
posted by slogger at 11:47 AM on June 20, 2007

I also appologize for seeming to advocate the shooting of refugees during Katrina.
posted by Megafly at 12:52 PM on June 20, 2007

I apologize for insinuating Natalie Portman was pro Zionist.

I meant pro ZOMBIE-ist.
posted by tkchrist at 3:57 PM on June 20, 2007

I'm an ilk?
posted by deborah at 4:03 PM on June 20, 2007

I'm an ilk?

No, but you have them.
posted by Esoquo at 5:31 PM on June 20, 2007

DO NOT WANT!
posted by deborah at 2:11 PM on June 21, 2007

I AM ILKISH. And you're not.
posted by davy at 4:25 PM on June 21, 2007

I'm writing a book about naming my puppy. So, how do I build a C4 bomb?
posted by The Deej at 4:37 PM on June 21, 2007 [1 favorite]

Because the apology thread is closed, I have to place this here.
posted by BrotherCaine at 4:37 AM on June 24, 2007