Help me find a recent post about guide for bereaved on what next

January 24, 2024 3:29 AM

In the last couple of months I saw a post on the blue or green about a detailed guide for people who had a relative die, about all the things you will have to do if you are responsible for making arrangements and tidying up as it were. I cannot find it. Can you? Really want to share it with someone who sadly very much needs it.
posted by i_am_joe's_spleen to MetaFilter-Related at 3:29 AM (9 comments total)

Was it
My Parents Are Dead: What Now
?
posted by mochi_cat at 4:34 AM on January 24 [3 favorites]

Here is the actual post containing it, took me few minutes of digging through my browser history.
posted by mochi_cat at 4:44 AM on January 24 [1 favorite]

I think the post you're looking for is probably the one mochi_cat linked to, but it might be my Project post "Eldercare, Family Caretaking, and End-of-life Logistics: Stuff I Learned", which was a front page post in December.
posted by brainwane at 5:16 AM on January 24 [7 favorites]

Yeah, I was thinking of brainwane's great project.

Again, a drag that we all need it, and such a gift to have freely shared those lessons.
posted by wenestvedt at 6:10 AM on January 24 [1 favorite]

Was it My Parents Are Dead: What Now?

Soon to be a book (for certain values of “soon”)!
posted by babelfish at 10:20 AM on January 24 [1 favorite]

It was brainwane's Projects post (although the other site looks useful too). Thanks everyone!
posted by i_am_joe's_spleen at 4:38 PM on January 24 [1 favorite]

I missed brainwave's project the first time round. What a wonderful resource. Thank you.
I cannot emphasise enough the first advice to carers: Look after yourself.
This is so important because if you can't care for you, you can't care for anybody else and then a third person has the stress of sorting the situation out.
posted by adamvasco at 4:25 PM on January 26 [1 favorite]

Not a regular so can't suggest a link. As someone who when it happened all-but solo-ed all the required things I could manage on autopilot right up until I couldn't anymore, I take my hat off to you for looking out for your friend like this. It will help them more than you can know (unless you already know, in which case I'm sorry)

Maybe this is spam, it wasn't meant to be
posted by I'm always feeling, Blue at 5:39 PM on February 6

Shout if yr southern UK and it might help (my only context)
posted by I'm always feeling, Blue at 5:41 PM on February 6