How does it feel?

November 13, 2007 7:33 AM

Just wanted to call attention to an AskMe that really takes you on a roller-coaster ride -- opening with sadness, stopping off at beauty, providing lots of warm fuzzies throughout, stopping off for a surprising dollop of disgust on the way to inexplicable hilarity (ymmv), and ending up being a great reference point for anybody in a relationship.
posted by stupidsexyFlanders to MetaFilter-Related at 7:33 AM (25 comments total)

Totally breaks the guidelines...

But in a really, really good way.
posted by psmealey at 7:53 AM on November 13, 2007

I don't think it breaks the guidelines. It's a genuine question that can be answered, and it's getting good answers. Thanks for bringing the thread to my attention.
posted by languagehat at 8:17 AM on November 13, 2007

but have they ever heard the who?
posted by quonsar at 8:19 AM on November 13, 2007 [2 favorites]

My favorite part was when people helpfully misread the tags and started talking about their mothers.
posted by hermitosis at 8:22 AM on November 13, 2007

My favorite part is how many people realize they are loved in emergency rooms.
posted by CunningLinguist at 8:26 AM on November 13, 2007 [2 favorites]

LEON: "My other? Let me tell you about my other."
posted by Fuzzy Monster at 8:45 AM on November 13, 2007 [1 favorite]

My favorite part is how being covered in vomit and/or necessitating immediate intervention into a bodily orifice appears to be a prerequisite to feeling loved.
posted by googly at 8:57 AM on November 13, 2007 [1 favorite]

Well, for some people, googly, that ain't love. That's just what floats their boat.
posted by psmealey at 9:01 AM on November 13, 2007

Touché, psmealey.
posted by googly at 9:06 AM on November 13, 2007

necessitating immediate intervention into a bodily orifice

you romantic SOB you

/swoons
posted by stupidsexyFlanders at 9:17 AM on November 13, 2007

I think that we're not giving due consideration to the Air Supply thesis regarding love: that it can be made from nothing at all.
posted by Kwine at 9:28 AM on November 13, 2007

I thought McCartney's work had disproven that thesis earlier:

Life -> End, Love taken = Love made
posted by psmealey at 9:31 AM on November 13, 2007

Curiouos that it segued from the question what it FEELS like to be loved to the answers about how you know you are loved. What it feels like is a much more interesting question. And not really to do with how nice the other is to you.
posted by jennydiski at 9:40 AM on November 13, 2007

Curious...
posted by jennydiski at 9:42 AM on November 13, 2007

My favorite part was when the wife thought the husband woke up at 3AM to go buy her Diet Pepsi. Sounds to me like his old buddies were down at the bar 'til closing time.
posted by yeti at 9:52 AM on November 13, 2007

Interesting distinction, jennydiski, though I imagine it would be a bit hard to describe what it feels like to be loved beyond the "warm tingles in my toes" kind of way. To be fair, the OP did specify as a template "When X, I knew I was loved".

I wish I could MeMail the OP and thank them for a heartwarming thread, though, and to cheer them on for their future personal relationships.
posted by Phire at 9:52 AM on November 13, 2007

You see, that whole toes tingling thing is too easy. Why not total panic and holy terror? Really to know you are loved might be a terrifying experience.

As in: I knew I was truly loved when I had to spend the next week blowing into a paper bag.
posted by jennydiski at 9:58 AM on November 13, 2007

Why on earth was he wearing a paper bag?
posted by team lowkey at 10:30 AM on November 13, 2007 [2 favorites]

I only truly knew I was loved after seventy stitches and a two-pint transfusion.
posted by breezeway at 11:02 AM on November 13, 2007

I knew I was loved once the restraining order was lifted.
posted by brain_drain at 11:14 AM on November 13, 2007

I cuddle myself by believing that they are all liars.
posted by Free word order! at 12:01 PM on November 13, 2007

Ugh. There's ankle-deep sap in there, and I wrecked my good shoes.
posted by LobsterMitten at 1:14 PM on November 13, 2007 [1 favorite]

Funny thing about love...

It's savage and it's cruel
And it shines like destruction
Comes in like the flood
And it seems like religion
It's noble and it's brutal
It distorts and deranges
And it wrenches you up
And you're left like a zombie

It's guilt edged
Glamorous and sleek by design
You know it's jealous by nature
False and unkind
It's hard and restrained
And it's totally cruel
It touches and it teases
As you stumble in the debris

or so I've heard.
posted by Sailormom at 1:23 PM on November 13, 2007

jennydiski and liquorice, I agree with your comments wholeheartedly. It occurred to me as I read the comments in the original thread that people do lots of nice things for reasons other than love (guilt, obligation, in anticipation of something in return, etc). Interesting how many thought that indicated love. Or maybe in their instances, it was done out of love and they knew it.
posted by nelvana at 4:54 PM on November 13, 2007

I have been waiting so long for a post about loving 'fro mothers! Thanks, AskMe!
posted by eritain at 1:17 PM on November 16, 2007